One thing I love about Christmas at home is that, once a year, I can sit around a dinner table with my granny, cousins, siblings, parents, aunt and ankle. The other thing I really dislike, is buying gifts to them all, especially when the population of our family is fastly growing every year.
Do not get me wrong. I love buying gifts, but only if it is a fuck yes.
Recently I read a blog post by Mark Manson, who is talking about the theme ‘’Fuck yes or no’’ in the field of relationships. https://markmanson.net/fuck-yes
If you are looking for a date, or perhaps you already have one, there is a simple answer to all of your questions. Is it going to work? Is he interested? Is there spark between you two?
If there is no hesitation, it is called a ‘fuck yes’ and you will definitely feel it. If you need to question it, convince yourself or hesitate to move forward, it is not a fuck yes, and therefore not worth of your time.
It is full 100% or nothing - It is fuck yes or no, simple as that.
The same idea works for lot of other things in life too. During this Christmas we had to use it for shopping.
Imagine a situation, where you are shopping a gift for someone close to you. You come across for many things and struggling to find the right one. There is a simple rule you can follow when you are unsure. Would she like this? Is this the right size? Is it the right color? If the answer is fuck yes, she would love it, buy it immediately! If the answer is anything else, leave it and move on. Do not settle for okay, or 60% full-filling gift. It’s all or nothing you remember? Fuck yes or no.
Even though you would follow this brilliant fuck yes-rule, which will, by the way, change your life, there will be people who won’t - and that is going to affect your life as well. When you get one of those gifts which has cost lot of $$$ and you just cannot see the beauty of it - it is meant to be given forward. Give it to someone who needs it more than you do and be proud of it, a recycled gift.
YES, gifts can be given forward and there is no need to hide it.
In my opinion you can even re-give a given gift if you see it is not used correctly. In that occasion, you will have to know the person quite well to approach him/her with this demanding question. ‘’Hey, I have seen that you do not really use the present I gave you few months back… could I please get it back and give it to my other friend, who would suit it well?’’ You can even tell your friend, that you have misread the recipient of that gift. That it should have not be given even in the first place.
This, of course, is a good test for the friendship too. Does she/he get angry at you for trying to recycle the unused gift or is she happy to share the happiness and give it away?
The question remains, is your friend a fuck yes or no?